Wednesday, November 27, 2013

Food (a blog from training)

I know someone who starts every meal with a prayer of appreciation for the hands that have touched her food before she did. Beginning at the farmer, the truck drivers and purchasers, the preparers and chefs, she makes her way through the chain of produce commerce before ending, neatly, with gratitude for the food in her hands. While I would never openly say it, except now because the internet is the great anonymizer, I found it rather silly. It was dozens of hands that had picked her food, miles that it had traveled, by the time it was something edible, it was incomprehensible to picture its beginning.
Yesterday I ate an egg while looking at a chicken. It was a well cooked egg, and I was extremely grateful for it. But I also know, looking at that chicken, that it was most likely her egg I was eating. Having that sensation is so rare in America (unless you are a farmer), but oddly gratifying. The egg had moved from the chicken to my host mother, from my host mother to my sandwich, and then to provide nourishment for my body.
Sometimes I go with my host brother to the fields where they grow sugarcane. He cuts it down and gives it to me. I’ve become adept at removing the green outside to chew the sweet center. I’ve drank sugar cane juices in America, but never sat and chewed on one that was grown feet from me.  I watched pineapple grow out of long bushes; I’d had no idea where they come from. Besides a vaguely formed idea of a pineapple tree, I assumed they appeared magically at the grocery store.
I don’t know the effect of becoming so separated from our food. Tellingly, our distance from our food is neither just physical or just emotional, but like all good conundrums, both. I feel a duality and connectedness I hadn’t known before; rain is both beautiful and life giving, the earth is both a stable landscape and a ceaseless provider, and my village is kind men and women, who have bent to the ground to provide the food that I receive.

Perhaps it is acceptable that we are so distanced from our food. I know nothing of the latrines the workers on farms in America use; I am unconcerned about whether they wash their hands. But the gratitude and connectedness that I am able to experience here is so different. Lately I’ve been sure, before meals, to bow my head and picture the path my food took to come to me, and be thankful.

Tuesday, November 19, 2013

The Small-Girl

I'm losing my ability to make light of ending. Death here is closer, like the sun, and just as indiscriminate and unforgiving. A girl with a face youthful and round grows a belly to match. I watched her expand from my safe distance. Last week I went to see her and found her belly sunken, and her eyes empty. They call you a small girl here until you've had your first baby. I wonder if you're still a small girl if your baby dies. I've never seen eyes grow so old so fast.
There are a thousand ways this place could kill. I won't let it. I promised my mom I'd come home. Being adventurous strikes me as the best way to survive. I'll climb trees, race down bush paths on bicycles and sit in the front of trotros. Make it a staring contest; I won't blink first, and my lorry always makes it home safely. Please come back, the letter from my nephew says. I will.
I want to relearn small children without heavy burdens. Sometimes I tire of babies with leathered feet and ancient eyes. Sometimes I think my soul is growing old. Sometimes I miss home.

Sometimes nothing feels more welcoming than riding the red dirt sand road home. Sometimes the sight of my village growing out of the bush is a symphony. Sometimes the only hard thing is being away from loved ones. Sometimes the hardest thing is falling desperately in love with sweat on my chest, dirt under my nails living know that one day, not even so far from now, I'll put down the mild mannered infant that sits in my arms like home and walk, knowingly, back down that red road out of this village forever.